HOW TO BE A GOOD FATHER. 1

              [ Our child Our well being]  

In all honesty it is not that easy being a good father; what with all the distractions around us. Having to feed the family, keep them safe; in short having to religiously fulfill all the mas low  hierarchy of needs which includes shelter; clothing's; payment of bills etc. But despite all this challenges we fathers and those aspiring should be console with the word of this respected psychologist "

"As a child is a precious gift given, fatherhood is a treasure received. Having a son or being a father is grace.  Fatherhood becomes fulfilling when the father gives his child warmth and affection, patience and comprehension, protection and tolerance, security and hope".

Fathers have important roles to play in the growth and development of their child, 'cos we are the first mentor the child has, and as the head of the home this places a very important responsibility on us.

 MY TIPS TO BEING A GOOD FATHER [ includes but NOT limited to]:-

• Make time out for your family:-

As a father how do you show your children that they are important to you? we need to spend significant amounts of time with our kids so that they do not conclude in their small mind that other things such as job; friends; our hobbies; lifestyles etc are more important to us than them.

Little things like helping with their home work, teaching them to learn new things like how to tie their shoe laces; how to button up; pronounce new words etc goes a long way to bond father-child relationship. Another very important way is to make out time to always go out on family dates to interesting places and mind you it doesn't have to be expensive.

Daddies please be there for your kids, those magic moments are fleeting and will never be repeated. In just a twinkle of an eye the kids are wrapping their arms around you tightly honestly this feelings always leave an indelible mark in one's memory.

When you spend time bonding with your child; not only are you helping him or her, you are also setting the stage for his future happiness.

Good fathers are good Communicators:-

For us to be a good communicators to our children we definitely must also be a good listener. we need to develop the habit of listening without overeating; because if the child feels that you will easily loose your temper and be judgmental they will like to be defensive by keeping to themselves, so we need to always listen to them calmly;show that we are genuinely interested in them- they will in turn be willing to share their precious thoughts and feelings with us. "Every man must be swift about hearing, slow about speaking; slow about anger" [James 1v19]

Be at peace with their Mum['Ur partner] 

In other words our children’s happiness is directly related to our happiness; findings has shown  that an average kid is more attached to the mum [I feel its spiritual cos of the umbilical cord] so me feel its logical to make that source of joy happy instead of indulging in unnecessary squabbles. 

I believe if there is peaceful coexistence between partners; together they can create a list of family values and follow it up with family mission statement. The parent-child bonding that results from these sorts of discussions will affect all aspects of the child’s life positively.

   In the word of a respected psychologist:-

"Our children's happiness is directly related to our happiness,"

to be concluded in Part 2.

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